A few of my friends are going to “evolve” this weekend at a Motivational Speaker seminar. When the invitation was extended to me a few months back, it got me thinking. I’m the only one who can motivate me. I don’t find motivational speakers all that effective.
Is that okay? Yes. It is.
Don’t get me wrong. They give amazing advice and genuinely inspire people every single day. Their work is extremely important. I just personally find my motivation within myself. It comes from a deep place at the most spontaneous, yet the most detrimental, times. Maybe it’s because I have discipline problem? I have always done things my own way and in my own timeframe. I think it’s because I have my own plans that will fall into place at a unique rate, perfectly tailored to my own experiences.
Someone simply telling me to change my life isn’t actually going to make me change my life. If anything, I don’t want to feel forced. I don’t file anything forced under fate. It’s kind of like the saying, “You can’t help someone who doesn’t want to be helped.” Changes on a large scale can’t be the result of following instructions. It comes from our core. We have to WANT it. We almost have to fear it, which is how we know we NEED it. And I’ll be the first to admit that changes that are results of desperation are still changes. Motivational speakers can certainly point us in the right direction, but the rest is entirely our responsibility.
My motivation is based off of my real life.
As in, what happens to me, what doesn’t happen to me, what I wish would happen to me. It’s influenced by the people in my real life. This includes the good people, the bad people, and even the people I don’t even know yet because I understand that I may cross paths with them at some point on my journey. The people and objects closest to us have the strongest hold over our most trivial movements. That’s okay with me, because I carefully choose who and what is in my life at such close proximity.
BY THE WAY, we can’t compare our timelines of success to anyone else. There are changes I could have made a long time ago. There are areas of my life that should have been more important than they were at the time. However, I’ve learned that the timing wasn’t right. We can’t say, “I should have done this,” or “I could have done that.” What’s important is that we do it NOW. Going to a seminar isn’t going to make us better. We make us better.
In conclusion, this proactive fire stems from our gut. Please remember that while other people’s words may impact us, we control our own decisions and, of course, DESTINY. We may retain what these speakers, authors, or preachers say to us, but we don’t actually apply it until WE are ready. The hard evidence of our transformations reside in our executions.